Codependents' Guide to the Twelve Steps

If you're working CoDa, this is a great pickup

This is a great companion book for anyone working through the 12 Steps of CoDA. Meetings were helpful for me to hear others' perspectives and experiences and were a necessary part of my recovery journey, but this book allowed me to do work at home between meetings at my own pace. Melody's approach is compassionate and thoughtful. She provides extensive examples and ideas to mull over, consider, and apply to your own life and recovery. I highly recommend this book to anyone ready to embark on the fulfilling and life saving road to recovery!

With Melody's helpful, clear and revelatory style of writing, you get the feeling that you are talking with someone who "knows everything, has been there, and done that" and has come out on the very top. She leaves no stone unturned, yet writes in a clear manner that is very easy to follow. She writes with honesty. The stories that she has picked to illustrate the concepts that she is writing about are very much relevant to each concept. She spends time to take you through each of the steps and she is thorough and very in depth, and yet does not waste 1 word on anything trivial; and one doesn't get the feeling that she is moving on to another concept too soon. I recommend that you see her interviews on youtube as a supplement to understanding who she is and why she is doing this work.

Excellent read. Great price.

Great book!

This is a wonderful book for anyone working the 12 Steps for Codependency. I read each chapter as I was working that step. It's too much info to just read through. The only reason I don't give it 5 stars is because I have a very specific faith, so that part is a bit lacking for me personally, but appropriate for the general reader. It is a valued addition to my library!

Best book on the market to really dive deep and change, codependent behaviors, and beliefs

Good book, prefer to Al-Anon texts. sorry Ms. Beattie died. Very relatable.

El libro era de segunda mano pero estaba en buen estado

著者のメロディ・ビーティは、薬物依存症から回復した後、自分の共依存症に気づいて、１２のステップを用いて共依存症から回復してきた女性です。この本は、著者自身の経験や、アラノンやコーダ、ＡＣＡなどの自助グループで回復した人たちの１２のステップの経験に関するインタビューに基づいて書かれた、共依存症からの回復方法に関する本です。 本書の特徴の一つは、アルコール依存症などのアディクションからの回復のための１２のステップの方法とは異なる、共依存症者のためのステップの活用方法を著者が示そうとしている点です。 例えば著者によれば、アルコール依存症などのアディクションからの回復のために１２のステップを実践する場合、自分自身や自分の行いに関する厳格な注目（almost harsh focus）や、「自我から抜け出る（あるいは自我を捨てる）」（getting out of self）ことについての厳しい注目（heavy focus）が必要だが、共依存症者にとっての１２のステップには、自分自身に対する優しい（gentle）態度を身につけていくことや、自我（the self'）を愛し、尊重していくことが必要になります（本書、１９３頁）。 そして著者は、このような観点から、共依存症者への深い愛と共感に基づいて、ステップ１から１２まで詳しく解説します。例えばステップの中で、具体的にどうしたらいいのかわかりにくい、４の棚卸しや８の傷つけてきた人の表の作り方についても、シンプルでわかりやすい（４については複数の種類の）方法を説明してくれます。 なお巻末には、ミーティングに参加する際の注意、自助グループで使われる特有の言葉の解説、アメリカの自助グループの連絡先、共依存症のための１２のステップの活用に役立つ本（一部は邦訳がある本もある）の紹介もあります。 私は日本語で翻訳されている複数の１２のステップの本を読んできましたが、読んでいてこれほど心を動かされたものは、本書以外にありませんでした。この本は、１２のステップでいうハイヤーパワーの配慮（care）に導かれながら、共依存症者自身が自分自身をケアし、愛していく方法を読者に示してくれます。特に難しい英語で書かれている訳ではないので、英語が苦手ではない方で、１２のステップで共依存症からの回復を目指したい人には、オススメです。

Perhaps 'love' is not quite a word I would use to describe however it is a very informative book and for those who have been with Al Anon for some time, they will find it interesting. I wouldn't suggest you read it if you are a newcomer for they are not one of the suggested books, nor spoken about in the meetings as this causes confusion. There is a little too much conversation about 'god' especially if you do not understand that this is a spiritual programme and does not relate to a 'god' as in a religious sense. However she fits nicely into Al Anon's (and damaged childhoods). It is a pity it could not be utilised alongside the suggested reading list.

All things Melody Beattie writes are good.

Very glad I took a chance on buying Used!